Just think about those 4 words a moment.  No fear No Stress.

Do you think that’s true? Well, take a look at your own life. Do you experience ‘stress’? If you do, what particular situations do you find stressful?

When you feel ‘stressed’, what do you think is the underlying emotion? If you feel irritated and frustrated when your children won’t cooperate, you might think that the emotion is anger, but I suspect, if you looked underneath the anger, there would be some fear.

I want you to try something now. I want you to jot down the answer to the following question, and as you do so, just keep on writing till you have run out of things to say.  Here’s the question..

If I wasn’t afraid I would………….

When you’ve finished, take a look at what you’ve written and then ask yourself

What is it that I’m really afraid of?

Perhaps it’s fear of




hurting yourself or someone else

not being liked or loved

not ‘fitting in’

being rejected

being alone?

Not doing something because you’re afraid to, means you get to avoid the possibility of anything ‘unpleasant’ happening, There’s a real ‘upside’ to  ‘staying stuck’, that’s why you do it! The trouble is, there’s also a ‘downside’ too….

I’m assuming that up until now, the upside has outweighed the down.  The question is, do you want to continue ‘playing safe’, or do you want to feel fully ‘alive’ and fulfill your dreams?

Whatever you choose is fine, just make sure you do it ‘consciously’, taking responsibility for your choices.  It doesn’t work to spend your life trying to keep other people happy, only to blame them a few years down the line!

Whatever you do, and however you do it, why not choose to make yourself happy.

It’s okay to feel scared and do nothing, and it’s okay to feel the fear and do it anyway! Your choice.

So, next time you feel ‘stressed’,  look at what’s going on underneath it. You can stay stressed if you want to, or you can choose to feel something else.

I’ve included a simple EFT demonstration to help you to let go of stress and relax easily. Once you’re relaxed, there will be all sorts of options open to you.

Please do let me know how you get on, by leaving a comment or two underneath this blog.

Speak soon ….