Do you have a conversation in the background that says "I can't do that, I'm not good enough"? We can't all be experts at everything, learning something new takes practice. For a lot of people it isn't okay that they can't do something first time. Most people want to give up when things get tough; they just don't want to do what it takes to achieve it. Saying "I'm not good enough", is a great way of avoiding being good at something. The reality is that most people fear success more than they do 'failure'. Like Marianne Williamson said so beautifully .... Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. [...]
A friend of mine sent me this great piece of writing the other day. I want to share it with you because I think it really sums up the impact habits have on our experience of life. See what you think ..... Who Am I? You may know me. I'm your greatest helper; I'm your heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am at your command. Half the task you do might as well be turned over to me. I am able to do them quickly, and I am able to do them the same every time, if that's what you want. I am easily managed. All you've got to do is be firm with me. Show me exactly [...]
For many years the 'feminine' has not been celebrated. In this moving film, Dear Woman, men talk about their desire to change that. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw&feature=player_embedded Do let me know your thoughts. Speak soon ......
Isn't it good to know that we can do something about the way we feel, simply by changing our posture? Consultant psychologist Ingrid Collins believes there’s an intrinsic link between the body’s position and our ‘psychological posture’. ‘At a cellular level, when happiness molecules — or endorphins — produced within the brain circulate in the blood, they send a signal to every cell that we’re happy and healthy,’ she says. ‘If we arrange ourselves physically in a positive manner with the shoulders back, the spine straight and the chest open, it informs the brain to send out more endorphins, triggering a feeling we experience as happiness.’ I talked to Chiropractor Dr Mike Cassidy Hogg about his thoughts on the matter. Our [...]
Our words matter. What we say has an impact not only on ourselves , but on everything around us. Our words can literally shape our reality. Watch this extraordinary film to see what I mean.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tAvzsjcBtx8 Speak soon.....
We’re only just into the new year, but does it feel like it’s new? or are you already relating to life like you’ve ‘been there and done it’? In reality, every moment is a new moment, it’s never happened before. So why not take a moment to ‘savour the moment’. […]
I know for many Christmas can seem overwhelming; the pressure of 'the season to be jolly', can be all too much. Although Christmas is known to be particularly stressful, suicide rates are in fact down during this time. This is what the Centre for suicide Prevention has to say ... 'Suicide rates may be down during this period, but crisis workers all agree that Christmas can be a very stressful time. Loneliness, depression, feelings of loss, financial burdens, family conflicts, and alcohol abuse can intensify during the holidays.' Children of course are enormously influenced by what's happening around them. In a survey carried out by the BBC children’s TV programme Newsround found that.... Although 89% were excited, and 79% were happy [...]
The time for making New Years Resolutions is just around the corner and for a lot of people that means frustration, guilt and a cycle that they are very familiar with. Statistics reveal that 40 to 45% of adults make one or more resolutions or goals for themselves, and only 75% of them make it past the first week and 46% make it past 6 months! Making a New Years resolution is always a good step because you’re 10 times more likely to attain your goal than people who don’t explicitly make goals Do New Year’s Resolutions really work? Absolutely, anything can work if you resolve to do it and you stick to your commitment. The trouble is that if a [...]
Sometimes, when things get tough, we can give up on our dreams. Daily, we are challenged by our circumstances and it's all too easy to make a decision that a relationship, a job, or a task is just too difficult to persevere with. Whilst the easy thing to do is to stop, there is a cost to ourselves, in the process. Not having what we REALLY want impacts us on all sorts of levels: physically, emotionally and spiritually. The next time you give up on something ask yourself, what does that cost me? Today, I invite you to think about what you REALLY want and how you are going to make that happen. Being committed to the result, versus your feelings [...]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z45EB4TiYz4 'Accentuating' the positive is vital if you want to 'attract the positive'. I have blogged about this in the past but I think it's useful to be reminded, from time to time, of how powerful our mind is. What are you 'accentuating' or 'affirming'? Some people say, “I don’t believe in affirmations” or “affirmations don’t last”. Actually that’s not true. We are in fact affirming things about ourselves all of the time. Unfortunately most of the time what we’re affirming is negative, and goes on at an unconscious level. It starts something like this …. 1. Our conscious mind says, “I want to give up smoking” Our inner mind answers back - “You’ve got no will power, you can’t give [...]