I've just had an inspirational weekend in Oxford at an Arbonne conference. One of the key speakers was Michael Clouse. Michael said that in life what really counts is the way you think. This of course I know to be true, but I really enjoyed listening to his slant on things. He talked about, philosophy, attitude, actions, results and lifestyle. Philosophy - everything you know and how you choose to believe that information. Attitude - what you think about all day. Actions - what you actually do. Results - what you get from what you did. Lifestyle - What you are wanting to achieve. A Lifestyle that works for you. If you have a lifestyle that works for you that's great, [...]
Are you fed up with not getting what you want? Do you keep getting what you don't want? If that sounds like you, then the chances are that the majority of your thoughts are about what you don't want. When we focus on what we don't like or don't want; for instance a lack of money, it causes a chain reaction. Here's a little example to illustrate my point. A tax bill comes through Maggie's door and as soon as she sees the envelope she has a negative thought. "Oh no...that's going to be bad news!" She opens the envelope with dread and looks at the amount she is due to pay: a whole stream of thoughts follow. "No, I can't [...]
NLP, Hypnosis, EFT, Coaching ....there are so many techniques available to help us change our habits, and attract the things we want, that we can feel 'spoilt for choice'. Commitment is key to change. Terry Elston, from NLP World, talks about the importance of conscious choices, commitment and 'completion'. The interview last about 12 mins. Click here for the interview >> Speak soon.....
What do I mean by acceptance equals freedom? Let me start by giving you an example of not accepting something... Kim and Tom have been married for over ten years. Kim complains that Tom is incredibly untidy, actually she thinks their study looks like a 'pig sty'. Any time Kim walks past the study, and catches sight of the 'mess', she feels irritated. If Kim is having a 'good day', her irritation is relatively minor, but if she's having a' bad day', oh boy! does she feel disgusted and judgemental! Deep down Kim thinks that Tom is inconsiderate, and interprets his behavior to mean that he doesn't really love her; after all if he did, he would be willing to change [...]
'Decluttering' is a great way of getting things moving in our life. Hanging on to objects, we no longer have a use for, can really keep us stuck. If you are someone who 'hoards' or finds it difficult to locate something you need easily, then you may like to consider some personal 'spring cleaning'. Today I interviewed Life Coach, Graham Russell. Graham talks about his first experiences with a life coach, and how 'decluttering' physically and emotionally, can make space for something new to come into your life. Click here for the interview >> The interview lasts 12 minutes Do leave me any comments you might have about the interview or life coaching. Speak soon .....
Do you spend your time trying to 'rescue' situations, or people? Do you 'steam in' sometimes, without really thinking about the consequences? A friend of mine, read me an extract from a book she was reading, and I was left with a powerful visual image. Some of you may not be familiar with the Lone Ranger; a character from the fifties, who wore a mask and rode on horse back, 'saving the day'; so here is the Lone Ranger in action. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QCO6smQrjJ8 I haven't seen any Lone Ranger footage for years, but watching that clip, I can really see just how frantic his behaviour was. Of course good had to triumph over evil, but if we were to behave like that [...]
Although it's not really possible to live in any moment, other than the present moment, our thoughts and emotions can get in the way of us experiencing what's really going on in the 'here and now'. If you miss out on 'right now', life can get to feel a bit like 'groundhog day'; the same old thing, day in day out. Live your life focasing on the past, or waiting for the future, and before you know it the years will have passed by, and you'll be too old to do the things you always dreamed of doing, when you were young! Sometimes it takes a traumatic event to happen; like illness or loss; before individuals wake up to their life. [...]
The Gambling Commission survey of the prevalence of gambling and problem gambling suggests there has been little change since 1999. But online gambling and other new forms have higher rates of problem gamblers, sparking concerns about liberalising gambling laws.'BBC News Reaction:UK Gambling Report 'Although, thankfully, the number of problem gamblers has not increased, I believe the figure is still too high. The challenge we now face is to prevent people becoming problem gamblers in the first place. The study shows that young single men are a particularly vulnerable group, and we are determined to work with the industry, the Gambling Commission and government to find radical, effective solutions to this issue.' (John Greenway, responsibility in Gambling Trust) Today I talk to [...]
The other day someone asked me for some help with their habit of Procrastinating. I decided to go to Wikipedia and see what it had to say about Procrastination. Here is Wikipedias definition:- Procrastination refers to the counterproductive deferment of actions or tasks to a later time. Psychologists often cite such behavior as a mechanism for coping with the anxietyassociated with starting or completing any task or decision. There are three criteria for a behavior to be classified as procrastination: it must be counterproductive, needless, and delaying. Procrastination may result in stress, a sense of guilt and crisis, severe loss of personal productivity, as well as societal disapproval for not meeting responsibilities or commitments. These feelings combined may promote further procrastination. [...]
I receive a daily email from Neale Donald Walsch (author of 'Conversations with God'). I got a message today and I'd like to share it with you, because I think regardless of your particular religious beliefs, Neale has something really useful to say. Here it is..... On this day of your life, jules, I believe God wants you to know... ...that if you become ruffled with every comment that you consider a 'slight,' you will never find peace. Nor will you find it by always separating yourself from those who ruffle you. You can only end so many friendships before you find yourself very much alone. You can keep making new friends, of course, but sooner or later they will ruffle you -- and [...]