Changing Habits

Obesity….what is the answer?

By | March 15th, 2010|Changing Habits, Diets, Weight Loss|

As the number of obese people in the World continues to grow, we need to start to deal with the obesity problem effectively. More and more people are resorting to drastic measures in an attempt to resolve their weight gain. Gastric bands are becoming more widely available, but does it really get to the heart of the matter? Working as I do, with individuals and groups of people who have issues around their weight and body image, I believe that taking drastic measures and opting for surgery, doesn’t really deal with the underlying issues. It’s true that a lot of people lose a large amount of weight after surgery and are able to adapt their eating habits, but others struggle.  Some, [...]

We just love to be right …..

By | February 28th, 2010|Changing Habits|

“I told you that would happen didn’t I!” says Pam Dan gives her ‘one of those looks’ and says, “You just love to be right don’t you!” Pam: “No I don’t.” Dan:  “Oh yes you do.” Pam: “No I don’t!”. Dan:  “Well right now you want to be right about not 'loving to be right'!” Pam: “No I don’t.” Dan: “You wanna be right about me not being right then!” Pam:  “No I don’t!  Anyway, who’s trying to be right now!” By this time Dan isn’t even listening, “Well what about the time when you ……..” And so on ….. At this point, Pam decides to leave the room and distract herself with the cleaning.  Dan immediately switches on the television. [...]

Boiled egg memories …

By | February 15th, 2010|Changing Habits, Weight Loss|

Remember eating boiled eggs with soldiers when you weren't feeling very well? Or sitting round the campfire eating toasted marshmallows that were burning hot and oozing down the stick?  Or tucking into delicious barbequed food on a hot summers day?............We have all sorts of memories and their associated feelings; attached to the things we eat. Probably most of us can remember some happy times spent eating and drinking with family and friends. Sometimes though, because we want to feel those good feelings again, we gravitate towards those same foods, expecting the same experience, only to find that we have other feelings instead, perhaps the ones that aren't so good, like sadness, loneliness, emptiness or guilt, and no amount of chocolate, or [...]

Don’t say Don’t!

By | February 6th, 2010|Changing Habits|

I was talking to my daughter this morning over breakfast and she was telling me how she and her best friend were unable to stop laughing in their drama lesson. As she remembered what happened and shared her story with me, she began to laugh once more, and her laughing became infectious.  Soon I was giggling away too, it was delicious!  It just goes to show that spreading ‘good news’ does have an impact, not only on yourself, but other people as well!  Our conversation reminded me of my early days in the theatre. Back in the 80”s, one of my first acting jobs involved taking a show out into the community: in this particular case, old peoples homes in Sheffield. [...]

Do you feel Validated?

By | February 1st, 2010|Changing Habits, Confidence, Film|

‘In psychology and human communication, validation is the reciprocated communication of respect which communicates that the other’s opinions are acknowledged, respected, heard, and (regardless whether or not the listener actually agrees with the content), they are being treated with genuine respect as a legitimate expression of their feelings, rather than marginalized or dismissed.’  Wikipedia If you don’t feel validated by other people perhaps it’s time to look at your behaviour…. Some of you may think that it’s got nothing to do with you and everything to do with everyone else! But what if it hasn’t? What if you were to consider that the ‘buck’  stops with you?  Just think about it. You see, people do what people do, (very profound I [...]

Do affirmations really work?

By | January 27th, 2010|Changing Habits, law of Attraction|

Some people say, “I don’t believe in affirmations” or “affirmations  don’t last”. Actually that’s not true.  We are in fact affirming things about ourselves all of the time.  Unfortunately most of the time what we’re affirming is negative, and goes on at an unconscious level. It starts something like this …. 1. Our conscious mind says,  “I want to give up smoking” Our inner mind answers back - “You’ve got no will power, you can’t give up smoking. Life’s too stressful to ‘give up’, what will you do to calm you down? Everyone knows it’s really difficult to give up; anyway you’ve got to have some ‘vice’. Imagine how unbearable it’ll be being around other smokers, you won’t fit in; they’ll [...]

Hair 4 Haiti

By | January 26th, 2010|Changing Habits|

Yesterday, my daughters school decided to raise money for Haiti by allowing the pupils to do anything they liked with their hair in exchange for a donation.  It was great fun of course, and even though there are only 185 children at the school they raised over £800: so well done St Aubyns! I imagine that for most of the children, their hair became the focus: it certainly did in our household!  It had to look ‘perfect’, get ‘the right sort of attention’, stand out from the rest but not look ridiculous, ‘fit in’ in an ‘individual’ sort of way! When we spend our lives trying to be ‘perfect’ we can disconnect ourselves from what’s really going on in life : [...]

A Weigh Out to Overeating

By | January 24th, 2010|Changing Habits, Diets, Weight Loss|

Given that diets are all about deprivation and strict rules, is it any wonder that the majority of diets fail long term, and that evidence suggests that you are more likely to gain further weight when you come off the “regime”? […]

I only have to look at a cream bun …..

By | January 21st, 2010|Changing Habits, Film, law of Attraction, Weight Loss|

I only have to look at a cream bun …… People who say “I eat what ever I want and I never put on weight” are right aren’t they?  So are those who say “I only have to look at a cream bun and it goes straight to my hips” What do you say about yourself and the way you look? Beliefs about ourselves are very powerful indeed, they actually shape our reality. Thinking ‘fat thoughts’ can literally lead to putting on weight or an inability to lose weight.  You see our unconscious mind likes to give us exactly what we think about.  If we are always thinking about what we don’t want e.g. to be  ‘fat’ ,‘unhealthy’, ‘depressed’ or  ‘single’ [...]

The connection between our thoughts and our physical body

By | January 17th, 2010|Changing Habits|

Dr John Haglin says in the book  The Secret 'Our body is really a product of our thoughts.  We're beginning to understand in medical science the degree to which the nature of thoughts and emotions actually determines the physical substance and structure and function of our bodies.' That may seem a bit 'far fetched' but if you think about the connection between worrying and stomach ulcers John Haglins words may start to make sense. So what are you thinking right now?  Are your thoughts healthy and empowering? or are they detrimental to your body and your general state of well being? If you want a healthy body start thinking healthy thoughts! Speak to you soon Julie

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