D0 you feel like no one listens to you? Do you listen to others? I mean REALLY listen?? We have two ears and one mouth for a reason! Being a great listener is invaluable. People like nothing more than to be really heard. Well YOU do don't you? Unfortunately it's very rare that we actually get 'really listened too'; why? because too often someone else wants to interrupt and give their advice, make us feel better or put across their point of view. Ever noticed yourself doing that? Today I invite you to just listen and when you feel the urge to talk, don't, give someone else you're undivided attention, in fact take all the attention off yourself and focus on [...]
When we blame others we are the ones that suffer. Whatever someone has done, no matter how awful, blaming them only keeps us stuck in the past. Things happen in life and people make mistakes or bad choices and behave in ways that may be considered irresponsible or unacceptable to others. We cannot change the past or undo anything that happened yesterday but what we can do is take responsibility for our own feelings and behaviour in the present moment. If you are blaming someone for something ask yourself how hanging on to this grievance makes you feel? Sometimes it’s easier to blame someone else rather than deal with our own pain. It may be easier to feel angry than to [...]
It's the Queens Diamond Jubilee weekend, the bunting is out and millions of people are preparing to celebrate. It's such a great opportunity for communities to come together, work as a team and have a party. The truth is though that none of us have to wait to celebrate. Everyday is an opportunity to celebrate being alive! Whatever is going on in your life, or in your body, it is possible to give thanks for something. Some of you may not be in a great space right now physically or emotionally. If you are suffering in some way, you may feel you have nothing to appreciate. I encourage you to find something, even if you have to dig really deep, because [...]
Today is Mothering Sunday in the UK and for many there may be some expectations about the day. Expectations can always lead to disappointment because things don't always turn out the way we want them to, especially when plans involve other people! Instead of setting yourself up for disappointment, why not notice your expectations and then focus on what you want to create instead? that way you can enjoy yourself whatever happens. Ask yourself what you want to get out of the day. If you want to feel 'connected' with your family and friends, instead of waiting for them to give you what you want, YOU can choose to be proactive and 'connect' with them. If you want to feel 'appreciated', [...]
However busy our lives are we can all do one small thing to plant a seed for peace. It's easy to focus on conflict. We know there are wars taking place every day, all over the world, but did you know that 6.9 billion people did not kill each other today! If you are anti-war, be pro peace. One small act of kindness makes all the difference. Come and celebrate peace with us by coming to a free music event in London on the 21st of September. For more information on the musicians, the venue etc, see the link below. Thank you for spreading the word. "On this International Day of Peace there is a ceasefire. We are raising awareness and [...]
The other day I was in a charity shop searching for a particular book. Although I didn't manage to find the book I wanted, I came across another book a friend had recommended years ago. The book is called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ..... and it's all Small Stuff, by Richard Carlson. I figured there was a reason why I had found this book so I decided to buy it. One of the things I sometimes hear myself thinking is 'I don't have is enough time'. I even go as far as imagining that if I had more time my life could be 'perfect'. This is a common complaint but the reality is we all have the same 24 hours, [...]
A friend of mine sent me this great piece of writing the other day. I want to share it with you because I think it really sums up the impact habits have on our experience of life. See what you think ..... Who Am I? You may know me. I'm your greatest helper; I'm your heaviest burden. I will push you onward or drag you down to failure. I am at your command. Half the task you do might as well be turned over to me. I am able to do them quickly, and I am able to do them the same every time, if that's what you want. I am easily managed. All you've got to do is be firm with me. Show me exactly [...]
For many years the 'feminine' has not been celebrated. In this moving film, Dear Woman, men talk about their desire to change that. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw&feature=player_embedded Do let me know your thoughts. Speak soon ......
Isn't it good to know that we can do something about the way we feel, simply by changing our posture? Consultant psychologist Ingrid Collins believes there’s an intrinsic link between the body’s position and our ‘psychological posture’. ‘At a cellular level, when happiness molecules — or endorphins — produced within the brain circulate in the blood, they send a signal to every cell that we’re happy and healthy,’ she says. ‘If we arrange ourselves physically in a positive manner with the shoulders back, the spine straight and the chest open, it informs the brain to send out more endorphins, triggering a feeling we experience as happiness.’ I talked to Chiropractor Dr Mike Cassidy Hogg about his thoughts on the matter. Our [...]
You may have noticed that I haven't blogged for a while now. I've been rather busy moving out of my house and settling into a new chapter in my life. During the process I have been really struck by the support and love I have had from family and friends. It's been truly wonderful. Yesterday a friend sent me a little film all about geese and the way they are there for one another. In the film below you will see that each goose benefits by helping another..beautiful...what fantastic teachers! Click on the link below and enjoy...(approx 3 mins) The Power of Pulling Together Speak soon ....