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April 2012

Living in Regret

By | April 12th, 2012|Being in the Now, Peace|

Most of us have said or done things that on reflection we wish we'd rather not have done, but hanging on to regret is such a waste of our time and energy and stops us from living in the present moment.  Are you holding on to regret right now, wishing that you could go back and rewrite the past? We all know that we can't change the past but that doesn't stop our mind going over and over the memory and imagining alternative scenarios. If you are hanging on to regret why not ask yourself this question, 'what was it that I needed and didn't get at the time?' e.g. understanding/support/security/justice/honesty Consider that it's time now to take responsibility for your [...]

March 2012

The Fox in the Garden

By | March 18th, 2012|Being in the Now, Relationships, Uncategorized|

Today is Mothering Sunday in the UK and for many there may be some expectations about the day. Expectations can always lead to disappointment because things don't always turn out the way we want them to, especially when plans involve other people! Instead of setting yourself up for disappointment, why not  notice your expectations and then focus on what you want to  create instead? that way you can enjoy yourself whatever happens. Ask yourself what you want to get out of the day. If you want to feel 'connected' with your family and friends, instead of waiting for them to give you what you want, YOU can choose to be proactive and  'connect' with them.  If you want to feel 'appreciated', [...]

February 2012

Disappointed Valentine…

By | February 13th, 2012|NLP, Passion|

How do you feel about Valentines day? Love it? Hate it? Not bothered? I remember feeling really excited about Valentines Day when I was a teenager,  but soon that excitement turned in to disappointment when  there was no post for me or  the card I got was from the ‘wrong person’! I remember how embarrassing it was telling my friends I hadn’t received one card, especially as that same postman had practically given  himself a hernia carrying cards to all of them!  It was clear to me that I just  wasn't 'pretty enough, intelligent enough, funny enough or good enough '......know what I mean?  in I went in to that familiar downward spiral If we use Valentines cards as a  measure [...]

January 2012

What do you really want this year?

By | January 1st, 2012|Confidence, Habits, Resolutions|

For a lot of people, New Years Resolutions mean frustration, guilt and a cycle that they are very familiar with. Statistics  reveal that 40 to 45% of adults make one or more resolutions or goals for themselves, and only 75% of them make it past the first week and 46% make it past 6 months! Making a New Years resolution is always a good step because you’re 10 times more likely to attain your goal than people who don’t explicitly make goals Do New Year’s Resolutions really work?  Absolutely, anything can work if you resolve to do it and you stick to your commitment.  The trouble is that if a part of you doesn’t want to give something up or start [...]

December 2011

Success…what is it for you?

By | December 4th, 2011|Changing Habits, Confidence, Habits|

I am currently doing a 10 session seminar about 'Success'.  During the course we have been looking at the paradigm of success as we know it, so that we can create something that is much more powerful. So what is a paradigm? 'a typical example or pattern of something; a pattern or model:society’s paradigm of the ‘ideal woman’ a world view underlying the theories and methodology of a particular scientific subject:the discovery of universal gravitation became the paradigm of successful science '. Oxford Dictionary and what is 'success'? 'The accomplishment of an aim or purpose: the attainment of fame, wealth, or social status a person or thing that achieves desired aims or attains fame, wealth etc'. Oxford dictionary The problem with [...]

October 2011

If you think you are beaten, you are….

By | October 29th, 2011|Being in the Now, Confidence, Habits, Music, Stress/Fear/Anxiety|

Are you beaten if you think you are?  I'd say in the moment of believing that thought, absolutely. If a football team believes they're going to lose, what chance do you think they have of winning? A positive state of mind really can mean the difference between success and failure.  Even if all the evidence shows that the opponents have never lost a match it's still important for the players to think positively  about their chances of winning. Focusing on winning, working together as a team and being present to what's going on in the match will make all the difference to the score.  Even if the team doesn't win at least the players will have done their best and enjoyed [...]

September 2011

Are you Planting Seeds for Peace?

By | September 16th, 2011|Music, Peace, Uncategorized|

However busy our lives are we can all do one small thing to plant a seed for peace. It's easy to focus on conflict.  We know there are wars taking place every day, all over the world, but did you know that 6.9 billion people did not kill each other today!  If you are anti-war, be pro peace.  One small act of kindness makes all the difference. Come and  celebrate peace with us by coming to a free music event in London on the 21st of September.  For more information on the musicians, the venue etc, see the link below. Thank you for spreading the word. "On this International Day of Peace there is a ceasefire. We are raising awareness and [...]

Are you busy trying to ‘rescue’ others or keep everyone else happy?

By | September 8th, 2011|Changing Habits, EFT|

Are you one of those people who are always busy looking after others? Do you put yourself last? Do you find yourself  trying to 'rescue' a person or a situation or trying to make sure everyone else is happy? If you are, I'd like you to consider that YOU are important and that when you can find ways of getting what you need and being happy, it's a gift for others.  I am not talking about lacking compassion for people and circumstances, I'm talking about getting out of the habit of trying to 'save' or 'fix' others and neglecting number one! When we don't take care of ourselves, this can lead to 'burn out' and feeling of resentment, but not only [...]

August 2011

Make peace with Imperfection

By | August 14th, 2011|Being in the Now, Changing Habits, Habits, law of Attraction, Peace, Uncategorized|

The other day I was in a charity shop searching for a particular book.  Although I didn't manage to find the book I wanted, I came across another book a friend had recommended years ago.  The book is called Don't Sweat the Small Stuff ..... and it's all Small Stuff,  by Richard Carlson.  I figured there was a reason why I had found this book so I decided to buy it. One of the things I sometimes hear myself thinking is 'I don't have is enough time'.  I even go as far as imagining that if I had more time my life could be 'perfect'. This is a common complaint but the reality is we all have the same 24 hours, [...]

July 2011

Hiding behind the Belief “I’m not being good enough”

By | July 25th, 2011|Being in the Now, Changing Habits, Confidence, Habits|

Do you have a conversation in the background that says "I can't do that, I'm not good enough"? We can't all be experts at everything, learning something new takes practice.  For a lot of people  it isn't okay that they can't do something first time.  Most people want to give up when things get tough; they just don't want to do what it takes to achieve it.  Saying "I'm not good enough", is a great way of avoiding being good at something.  The reality is that most people fear success more than they do 'failure'.  Like Marianne Williamson said so beautifully .... Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. [...]

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