Acceptance = Freedom

By | August 4th, 2010|Changing Habits, Peace, Relationships|

What do I mean by acceptance equals freedom? Let me start by giving you an example of not accepting something... Kim and Tom have been married for over ten years.  Kim complains that Tom is incredibly untidy, actually she thinks their study  looks like a 'pig sty'. Any time Kim walks past the study, and catches sight of the 'mess', she feels irritated.  If Kim is having a 'good day', her irritation is relatively minor, but if she's having a' bad day', oh boy! does she feel disgusted and judgemental!  Deep down Kim thinks that Tom is inconsiderate, and interprets his behavior to mean that he doesn't really love her; after all if he did, he would be willing to change [...]