What do you do with your emotions?
Do you label some of them ‘good’ and some of them ‘bad’?
Are you an expert at distracting yourself? Facebook perhaps, or Food, TV, or with alcohol?
Most of us have some sort of strategy to avoid anything ‘unpleasant’.
The truth is though, that getting in touch with our feelings is vital. Why? It’s vital because when we know how we are feeling, we can identify what it is that we need to do, in order to make ourselves feel better.
It is highly unlikely that food for instance, will make us feel better if we’re not actually hungry, and spending hours on Facebook is more likely to deplete our energy!
Our feelings are key to us being powerful, and feeling good about who we are.
So what can you do when you don’t feel okay? …
Option 1. Check in with yourself and ask
“how am I feeling” and “what am I needing?”
e.g. Are you feeling frightened? Do you need reassurance?
If you need reassurance, how would you like to feel reassured?
Could that involve asking for reassurance from a particular person or having a hug, or is it telling yourself that you are okay, and that it is completely normal to feel the way you feel?
Option 2. Notice that you don’t like the way you are feeling (which is you actually vibrating at a low frequency) and focus on something that raises your vibration (high frequency = feeling great).
What do you do when you ‘feel great’? Is it taking a walk or stroking the dog?
Feelings are transient, they come and go….that is if you don’t resist them!
‘what we resist persists’ so the most important thing, is to allow yourself to acknowledge and accept the feeling (or low vibration) in the first place.
Acceptance of ‘what is’ can be one of the most challenging things in life, but it is necessary for self-growth. Think about it being life a flowing river, if we try to stop a river flowing, it’ll just find some other route to take!
Most of us were told when we were children, that it was not okay for us to have our feelings, so naturally over the years, we have become experts at masking them. Is it time to grow up and embrace your feelings and become emotionally intelligent? Truly healthy adults accept their feelings and work with them.
Were you brought up to hide your emotions? Please do leave a comment.