Social media is all about building great relationships.

Specialists in social media and marketing, know that.  People want to do business with people that they ‘know, like and trust’.  It’s the same in life isn’t it? We all want to be around people that we ‘know, like and trust’.  Q

With that in mind, are you doing what you need to do, to foster trust and doing it with integrity?

Whatever you do in life, it’s ALL about relationships.  It’s important to gain ‘rapport’ with strangers so that they are open to listening to what you have to say.

So what is rapport?

‘a close and harmonious relationship in which the people or groups concerned understand each other’s feelings or ideas and communicate well’ –  Oxford Dictionary

Some people find communicating easier than others, but everyone can learn to communicate effectively.  The problem comes, when you have all the attention on yourself.  If you’re so busy worrying about what others think of you, fearing you will be judged, the experience will be ‘all about you’.  Get into the other persons world, listen, put your attention on to the other person.  Like I’ve said before, you have 2 ears and 1 mouth for a reason!!  Listen more and talk less.

It’s okay to be nervous, but if you keep focusing on your anxiety, all that will happen is that you will feel more anxious.  When you feel anxious it’s more difficult to concentrate on the other person, and what they are saying.

Make eye contact, even it it feels scary, it’s important.  I know in some cultures eye contact is frowned upon, but in the western world it’s vital. This is not about staring, please don’t do that!

Did you know that your eyes have to move from time to time, so that you can connect to your brain; this eye movement enables you to access information so you can remember stuff or imagine something new.

The most important thing to remember is

be yourself

be real

be human

be kind to yourself

treat others in a way that you would like to be treated.

The reality is, that the majority of people on the planet, are worried about what other people think of them! Isn’t that crazy?

Remember the person you are going to talk to, wants you to be interested in them, so be interested

be curious

let go of any assumptions about how it’s going to go

imagine the conversation going really well

see yourself enjoying the experience long before you get to have the conversation

and finally lighten up!!

I curious, do you find relationships challenging, or do you easily gt in to ‘rapport’ with people?  Do eave a comment.

Speak soon ….