How many times have you said something, or written something, only to have it misinterpreted by somebody? There are a number of reasons why this happens and one of those reasons is because certain words can 'trigger' people. 'A trigger is something that sets off a memory tape or flashback transporting the person back to the event of her/his original trauma.' Example 1 If someone has a phobia of spiders, the word spider can bring about anxiety. Example 2 If someone has a fear of taking responsibility, any time the word 'responsibility' is used it can create uncomfortable feelings in that person and they may become defensive. If you have something to say that is of a sensitive nature, I recommend [...]
It so often happens that men and women fall in love with each other and after the 'honeymoon period' is over, they begin to 'fall out of love' because their partner does something they don't like. When things don't 'go our way', and we begin to feel uncomfortable about that, we can start to 'try' and change the other persons behaviour. The trouble is that it isn't possible to change someone else! The only person that can change your partners behaviour is your partner, and they have to want to do that. Usually the things we don't like to see in others are the things we don't like to see in ourselves. After a while our partner acts like a huge [...]
Despite the fact that I apologised in my last blog for not writing more regularly, I succeeded again in having a long gap between posts! I won't go in to my reasons, because quite honestly they are not important to you readers, what is important is consistency. On Friday I was on a course run by Sussex Business Bureau and I was reminded of the importance of regular communication. Louise Fenwick, Zoe Cairns & Emma Pearce, specialists in social media and marketing, explained how social media is all about building relationships. People want to do business with people that they 'know, like and trust'. It's the same in life isn't it? We all want to be around people that we 'know, [...]
Deepak Chopra has written a book called Creating Affluence - The A to Z Guide to a Richer Life, and in the front of the book is written 'Affluence, unboundedness, and abundance are our natural state. We just need to restore the memory of what we already know.' What are your thoughts about that? I know from past experience that when I have been anxious about not having enough money or work, more bills seemed to come in and work got 'thin on the ground'. I also know that when I have chosen to relax and trust that work and money comes to me in abundance, that is what happens! So is it just a 'mind shift'? I believe that focusing [...]
Today is Mothering Sunday in the UK and for many there may be some expectations about the day. Expectations can always lead to disappointment because things don't always turn out the way we want them to, especially when plans involve other people! Instead of setting yourself up for disappointment, why not notice your expectations and then focus on what you want to create instead? that way you can enjoy yourself whatever happens. Ask yourself what you want to get out of the day. If you want to feel 'connected' with your family and friends, instead of waiting for them to give you what you want, YOU can choose to be proactive and 'connect' with them. If you want to feel 'appreciated', [...]
For many years the 'feminine' has not been celebrated. In this moving film, Dear Woman, men talk about their desire to change that. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K_uRIMUBnvw&feature=player_embedded Do let me know your thoughts. Speak soon ......
You may have noticed that I haven't blogged for a while now. I've been rather busy moving out of my house and settling into a new chapter in my life. During the process I have been really struck by the support and love I have had from family and friends. It's been truly wonderful. Yesterday a friend sent me a little film all about geese and the way they are there for one another. In the film below you will see that each goose benefits by helping another..beautiful...what fantastic teachers! Click on the link below and enjoy...(approx 3 mins) The Power of Pulling Together Speak soon ....
If you knew that the World was going to end on December 21st 2012 what difference would that knowledge make to your life right now? It's easy to stumble along imagining that 'day in day out nothing much changes' and take people and the planet for granted; but what if you were told that you, or someone you loved, was going to die tomorrow? In that instant everything would change. I can only imagine that if everyone shared the belief that 2012 was the end of civilisation, people would start working together, after all what would be the point of a war, there'd be nothing to fight for? This is not about scaremongering or wanting anyone to panic, but really to [...]
If you want your relationship or business to flourish, you need to have the attitude to match. Carolyn St John Loder runs a very successful company called Zest4Life. Today I talk to her about the importance of having a positive attitude when it comes to business. You can find out more about Carolyn and Zest for Life by visiting the website http://www.zest4life.eu/ The interview lasts approx 12 minutes. To listen, click on the 11 link below. 11 If you would like to feel more confident why not download my 'You Can Feel Confident' recording http://habitfixer.com/products-and-courses/ Speak soon......
I often work with clients who have issues around food. When I point out that they don't have a weight issue but a 'self-care' issue, something else becomes possible. When did you last do something that deeply nourished you? In our busy world it's easy to put ourselves last and then feel resentful and unfulfilled, but that's not being responsible. Take a look at the different areas of your life.. health relationships career finances home family spirituality Ask yourself, "where am I not taking care of myself?" Forget waiting for someone else to look after you and start nourishing yourself...now! why? "because you're worth it!!" Do let me know the ways you are being kind to yourself and the difference that [...]